Lunch table Trivias !
A few days ago we were talking about a lot of things. One of them was about being homo-phobic. I was discussing about it with ketchup also one day. Ketchup was the one who pointed out that guys are more homo-phobic than girls. I took a moment to think about it. I did agree with Ketchup but then I wanted to think about it objectively. I did come to a conclusion that most men are indeed more homo-phobic than girls. I wondered why though !!
Is it because their ego and social image ka damage is something they are always gaurding ? Or is it that they cannot go through the whole "what is wrong with me man?" stuff because such an identity crisis could also cause the aforementioned ? The cow went through one such episode. I could tell that although he was pretty flattered, he kept pitching in this "I was scared for my life" sentence all along the story telling :-/. He also seemed highly surprised when I said that maybe I wont freak out if something of the sort happened to me. Initially I thought that I would but then again I realized maybe I wouldn't after all. I kept shuttling between these thoughts and I decided that there is only one way to know and then I finally realised that the possibility of such an episode happening with me shall never arise!
We moved onto how some people consciously or unconsciously become cold when introduced to new friends or meeting known yet distant acquaintances (perceived as cold from people who know that you are a lot more nice as a person in general except around new people). NW keeps shifting personalities with new and known friends. I admitted to the fact that I found it immensely annoying to talk to her initially because I thought that she gave too much bhaav to speak to me then! Same goes for the cow and the new member at the table then. I was shocked aaaaaaaaaaaaaand tongue tied. I sat there as a minority at the table and I didn't have many defenses. The reason being I was trying to accommodate this fact that its human nature to not hold langotia yaar [ :-P] conversations with strangers or even acquaintances. In spite of this I found it hard to believe that such a thing does exist. I thought maybe it is reluctance or plain disinterest or a kindly-bug-off-I-dont-know-you attitude. But it still didn't seem to sink in and make sense. I keep telling myself that I'm kind of a shy and an introvert - at least to strangers iyyam. But I must admit that it only lasts for the first three meetings beyond which it gets extremely difficult for me to not show my true avatar !
Dissecting out the reasons for such a behaviour led us to this topic of how you are bred from childhood and the cultural background you come from. I strongly disagreed to this. I didn't want to sound all forthright and adamant and so avoided avoided verbal confrontation by leaving the topic there. I agree that it could contribute to some extent, but most of who you become comes from your own personal experiences. NW was thoroughly ragged by me and then she gave this piece of information that I reminded her a lot of her ex-room mate (thankfully a person she likes!).
Something happened today, one of my friends came to the campus to visit me. NW spoke a lot to her and then pointed it out herself that she is surprised she spoke so much with her, given the fact that she DOES give a cold treatment otherwise :-D!
I don't have much to conclude from this, but I do know that for whatever reasons, some are more gregarious than others. Although it was a little difficult for me to digest this, it still is, I came to terms with the fact that the nature of a person is something that cannot be questioned or justified using one or a few explanations. Some like crowds and others avoid it; some are introverts and others are not; some talk more and some don't; some are homophobic and others aren't; a perfect "coffee bite" thing! :-D
Is it because their ego and social image ka damage is something they are always gaurding ? Or is it that they cannot go through the whole "what is wrong with me man?" stuff because such an identity crisis could also cause the aforementioned ? The cow went through one such episode. I could tell that although he was pretty flattered, he kept pitching in this "I was scared for my life" sentence all along the story telling :-/. He also seemed highly surprised when I said that maybe I wont freak out if something of the sort happened to me. Initially I thought that I would but then again I realized maybe I wouldn't after all. I kept shuttling between these thoughts and I decided that there is only one way to know and then I finally realised that the possibility of such an episode happening with me shall never arise!
We moved onto how some people consciously or unconsciously become cold when introduced to new friends or meeting known yet distant acquaintances (perceived as cold from people who know that you are a lot more nice as a person in general except around new people). NW keeps shifting personalities with new and known friends. I admitted to the fact that I found it immensely annoying to talk to her initially because I thought that she gave too much bhaav to speak to me then! Same goes for the cow and the new member at the table then. I was shocked aaaaaaaaaaaaaand tongue tied. I sat there as a minority at the table and I didn't have many defenses. The reason being I was trying to accommodate this fact that its human nature to not hold langotia yaar [ :-P] conversations with strangers or even acquaintances. In spite of this I found it hard to believe that such a thing does exist. I thought maybe it is reluctance or plain disinterest or a kindly-bug-off-I-dont-know-you attitude. But it still didn't seem to sink in and make sense. I keep telling myself that I'm kind of a shy and an introvert - at least to strangers iyyam. But I must admit that it only lasts for the first three meetings beyond which it gets extremely difficult for me to not show my true avatar !
Dissecting out the reasons for such a behaviour led us to this topic of how you are bred from childhood and the cultural background you come from. I strongly disagreed to this. I didn't want to sound all forthright and adamant and so avoided avoided verbal confrontation by leaving the topic there. I agree that it could contribute to some extent, but most of who you become comes from your own personal experiences. NW was thoroughly ragged by me and then she gave this piece of information that I reminded her a lot of her ex-room mate (thankfully a person she likes!).
Something happened today, one of my friends came to the campus to visit me. NW spoke a lot to her and then pointed it out herself that she is surprised she spoke so much with her, given the fact that she DOES give a cold treatment otherwise :-D!
I don't have much to conclude from this, but I do know that for whatever reasons, some are more gregarious than others. Although it was a little difficult for me to digest this, it still is, I came to terms with the fact that the nature of a person is something that cannot be questioned or justified using one or a few explanations. Some like crowds and others avoid it; some are introverts and others are not; some talk more and some don't; some are homophobic and others aren't; a perfect "coffee bite" thing! :-D
4 comments:
The homophobic male with his 'I would be scared for my life' reminds me SO much of this. Apparently, straight men being scared of homosexual men is more common than you would think.
Just stupidity, honestly.
Exactly !
I agree with the fears that your male friend had or still is concerned with.....isn't it something that most women in india used to feel while interacting with guys ...IN ANCIENT TIMES !
Baaah really....as if they can't protect themselves ....coz they would then suddenly become these damsels in distress with no strength to protect themselves ! (reminds me of amy adams in enchanted) :-D :-P !!
Or their fears are to do with the fact that they might actually get persuaded to participate ....tch tch ...such low self confidence on oneself :-P !!
Baaah really....as if they can't protect themselves ....
It just makes NO sense. The shoe is on the other foot, and suddenly it pinches!
But what bugs me most is that these stupid men say all these things but then pass horrible comments (or have horrible attitudes) to women, and never realise the irony of it all.
whoa whoa... too much generalization happening in these pages... dont you think...?? :b
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